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Show your colors

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Most of the color guard are Boy Scouts, plus troop 98, which recently left the boy scouts after the sponsoring church overwhelming voted not to fire the gay scoutmaster and force the BSA to kick the church out (they have since joined Baden-Powell Service Organization).

It’s been more than a few years since Michael and I attended the Pride Parade or the Pride Festival. One friend, seeing the pics I was posting to twitter, commented, “I thought you didn’t like going to the parade any more!” And I had to explain that it wasn’t a matter of liking, but more a matter of trying to get both of us up and moving early enough on a Sunday to get there.

I like the parade.

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It’s not zillions of blocks long, but we have a big rainbow flag!

I like it so much, that one time I attended three in one year. San Francisco and Seattle weren’t on the same weekend that year (they’re usually both on the last Sunday in June), and the Seattle Lesbian & Gay Chorus (of which I was a member) sang a joint concert with the San Francisco Lesbian/Gay Chorus for Pride weekend. So Ray (my late husband) and I flew down to San Francisco, went to a lot of pride events, I sang in the concert, and we watched the gigantic parade. Then, back in Seattle, we marched with the chorus in Seattle’s not quite so big parade. Then, about a month later, we spent a long weekend in Vancouver, B.C., where we watched and cheered a much, much smaller (but extremely enthusiastic) Pride Parade.

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The only picture I got of us together at the parade. I know, nostril shot. Sorry.

When I started dating Michael (a few years later, after Ray died), he was a bartender at a lesbian bar down in Tacoma. Tacoma didn’t usually have a parade, though they had a pride festival a week or two after Seattle’s. For several years he had had to work on the day of Seattle’s Pride Parade (he said it was always a weird night, because half the usual crowd was up in Seattle at our parade and parties). After he stopped working at the bar in Tacoma (by which point we were living together), he got a job at a non-gay bar in Seattle. Working late Saturday night and having to work again Sunday made attending the parade less than fun for him, though he did let me drag up off to it a couple of times.

Then we hit this long period of either having too many other things going on, or one or the other of us being sick, or just not quite up to getting up and moving in time. So we missed a bunch.

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They make George Takei, one of the original cast members of Star Trek grandmaster? Of course I have to be there!

Watching most of the parade today (we only watched for three hours… there was still a bunch of parade to go, but we wanted to get to the festival in time to see George Takei on the main stage), the thing that struck me is that the parade has become even more ordinary. I’ve described my first pride parade before, noting that while there were outrageous costumes, more than a few near-naked people (though actually less than most non-gay parades I’ve attended), and so forth, the majority of people marching and riding floats looked pretty ordinary: people or all ages, shapes, and sizes in t-shirts and shorts or jeans. That’s decidedly more true now than it was when we last attended more than eight years ago.

This was only part of the Alaska group, they had another vehicles and a crowd of employees on foot.

This was only part of the Alaska group, they had another vehicles and a crowd of employees on foot.

I believe that is less about gays assimilating into mundane society (as some have suggested), as it is about corporations assimilating to the idea that inclusivity is good business. The first parade I attended had a few contingents of employees of some of the large employers in the area, but only a few. This year I saw groups of employees from several major banks, mobile phone companies, grocery stores, airlines, cruise lines, wineries, insurance agencies, restaurants, et cetera, et cetera. About half of the contingents, I would say, were groups of employees. And the standard ensemble for those groups is a t-shirt identifying their employer with pants or shorts.

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Market Optical’s float said, “Look with your eyes, not your hands” and then had go-go boys with multi-colored handprints all over their bodies.

There were still plenty of the non-profits and recreational groups, and those were where you most often saw the more outrageous costumes (though the Market Optical float was the one with the most scantily-clad go-go boys). There were scantily-clad people, including a large group of people on bicycles and roller skates wearing nothing but body paint. Most of the naked bikers were painted to look like characters from Star Trek. It didn’t occur to me while we were watching the parade that they had probably decided to do that because George Takei was the grand marshall.
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In the past it was the bars and dance clubs that would put a cage dancer in the float, not an optician!

I should mention the unpleasantness. Back when the Parade was on Cap Hill (aka, the Gayborhood) every parade I marched in had some “Repent sinners!” protestors. Except most years it was one grim-faced bearded guy holding up a sign at one corner, saying nothing. A couple times he had a small group, but that was it. Apparently now that we’re in downtown Seattle we now get an entire mini-parade of haters. According to the people standing next to us, last year or the year before there were some very angry confrontations. Now a couple of bicycle cops follow along. The haters walk the route before the parade officially starts. It looked like a lot of them, with a lot of signs and one guy with a bullhorn.

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The parade committee invited a lot of people who participated in the first Seattle Pride, including a country band called Lavender Country.

I say it looked like, because once I realized who they were, I simply turned my back on them, and refused to look at all. Michael did the same, except he glanced over when a lot of cheering broke out: two womyn ran out into the street and kissed in front of the bullhorn guy. Apparently it happened a lot along the route.

Now I feel a need to digress a moment, here. While I am a fierce advocate of free speech even for people I disagree with, here’s the thing: the Supreme Court has ruled that we have the right to exclude the ex-gay groups and the pedophile groups from marching in our parade, and the Boston St. Patrick’s Day parade has the right to exclude gay people from their parade. So, why is it, when the streets have been blocked off because we have a permit for a parade (and we are paying the city for the police to route traffic, and so forth) that we can’t exclude these people from the route that we’ve paid for for the duration? Instead of escorting them so angry faggots won’t attack them, shouldn’t the police arrest them?

Two guys were walking along with one of the groups and had their Dalmatians with them--with rainbow spots!

Two guys were walking along with one of the groups and had their Dalmatians with them–with rainbow spots!

I know all the reasons why we shouldn’t push for that: we should show more tolerance than they do, they’ll milk it for fundraising and propaganda purposes how they’re being oppressed, and so on. But you know darn well if we showed up at their church on a Sunday morning and starting reading a “How To Come Out To Your Parents” pamphlet over a bullhorn, they would call the cops.

That’s enough about the bad stuff.

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I did manage to get one non-blurry picture of gay Batman, even if it is a silhouette.

There’s so much more I could share. I kept trying to get a non-blurry picture of the guy skating as gay Batman. He was with two others, one was the joker, and the other had some Superman emblems mixed with other things. As far as I can tell the three were just skating up and down the full length of the parade, so they passed us several times. Then Batman crashed into a woman standing next to us. No one was hurt. It got a little funny, because she kept asking him if he was all right, and he said not to worry about him but was she all right? And that went back and forth several times.

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Rainbow tie-dye overalls over rainbow tie-dye shirt!

There was a very shy little kid who wanted candy, but would hide whenever anyone who was passing things out tried to give them to him. There were fun floats. There were several bands and drum and pipe corps, including the Police Department’s drum and pipe corps. There were several groups with pets. Lots of youth groups. Lots of trans* groups. There was a troop of librarians doing synchronized maneuvers with book carts. There were kids, lots of kids. And of course lots and lots of rainbows.

It was a great parade. And I’m so glad that we’re marching through downtown now, and filling the Seattle Center with hundreds of thousands of people, instead of cramming smaller crowds into the gay ghetto. I do want to support the businesses up there that have always been ready to answer the call of all the queer non-profits over the years. And since we have three parades now, we can! I think next year we need to make an effort to attend the Dyke March on Saturday and/or the Trans March on Friday.

Because it’s been a long, long time since I did three parades in a single year…

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Sunday Funnies! (part 2)

The second in what may be a long series of me recommending web comics for your perusal.

Since it’s LGBTQ Pride Parade Day here in Seattle (and a lot of other places), I’m going to lead off with a couple of strips with a gay sensibility:

The_Young_Protectors_HALF_BANNER_OUTSIDE_234x601I’ve been following The Young Protectors by Alex Woolfson, Adam DeKraker, and Veronica Gandini since the very beginning. I had been a kickstart funder for Alex Woolfson’s previous project (Artifice) and thus was alerted as he prepared the new project. The Young Protectors is a multi-chapter superheroes comic story. It begins when a young, closeted teen-age superhero who has just snuck into a gay bar for the first time is seen exiting said bar by a not-so-young, very experienced, very powerful, super-villain. Trouble, of course, ensues.

I discovered Vexed Wisecracker by Mike Van Waes a few months back. Classic three-panel format, always worth at least a chuckle.

LessThanAnd if you haven’t already checked out The Less Than Epic Adventures of T.J. and Amal by E.K. Weaver, you really need to. Besides really liking the story and the art, I love the fact that she has notes on the creation of the story, her art references, and other goodies. And did I mention it’s a really good story, and I think, despite the title, that the adventures in question actually are epic?

485333_491614510875731_1326237460_nI started reading: Adventures in Gay by Josh Lieberman about a year ago. I like the original four-panel gag format a lot. Lately he’s been posting videos more often than strips, but they are still quite amusing.

JesusLovesI first looked at Jesus Loves Lesbians, Too by Maria Burnham and Maggie Siegel-Berele just because I liked the title. I also like that they write short stories that are two to four comic book-style pages long, and that it isn’t a gag strip, but still finds moments of humor.

Then there are my usual recs:

I’ve long been a fan of: Mr. Cow, by Chuck Melville… and not just because the artist is a friend!

dm100x80I’m also a big fan of Deer Me, by Sheryl Schopfer. This artist is also a friend.

And I love this impish girl thief with a tail and her reluctant undead sorcerer/bodyguard: Unsounded by Ashley Cope.

Friday Links, Pride 2014 Edition!

http://www.nyacyouth.org/what-oreos-gay-friendly-facebook-post-about-pride-really-means-for-todays-gay-youthIt’s Friday! The last Friday in June! Tomorrow is the 45th Anniversary of the Stonewall Riots, generally accepted as the start of the modern gay rights movement. That means that tomorrow is the 44th Anniversary of the first ever Gay Pride March! Happy Pride!

In case you have managed to get to this blog without knowing this, I’m a gay man, married to a gay man, so this is basically our High Holy Days. Pardon us if we take to heart the words of Miss Coco Peru: “…live a life that’s out, proud, and just a little bit ridiculous.” So be warned, this week’s links are even more rainbow-colored than usual.

Here’s a collection of news and other things that struck me as worthy of being shared:

12 Kick-Ass Gay Women In Comics And Graphic Novels.

The Moment A Gay Couple Dared To Kiss In The Face Of Hate .

Dr. McMurtrie and the Gay Kiss. How a doctor studying sexuality in 1914 described and defined the relationships.

Op-ed: My First Grand Marshal Experience and the Meaning of LGBT Pride. Being Key West’s grand marshal gave Rob Smith a new perspective on small-town America.

Photographs Document Hidden LGBT Relationships From The Early 20th Century.

Tenth Circuit Court Rips Apart Right-Wing’s Bogus ‘Religious Freedom’ Argument Against Gay Marriage.

Transgender People: Strangers in Gay Land.

LOUISIANA: Judge Surprises By Deciding To Consider Full Marriage Equality As Well As Out-Of-State Recognition.

WATCH INDIANA’S FIRST GAY MARRIAGE: VIDEO. Note: the website has the video set to auto-play

Gay Pride in the 1950s: The Photo Booth as a Safe Space.

Kidnapped for Christ: New film exposes the horrors of gay conversion therapy.

Internalized Homophobia: The Next LGBT Fight After Same-Sex Marriage.

Gay marriage battle hinged on a great love story. Edie and Thea…

A Photographic Look at the Birth of Gay Pride.

Fabulous Photos From One of America’s Longest-Running Gay Prom.

PHOTOS: Meet the First Trans Man Crowned ‘Mr. Gay Philadelphia’.

The Mormon Church Just Excommunicated Another Feminist.

Last Month Was The Hottest May In Recorded History.

GOP House Candidate: Islam Not A Religion, Not Protected By Constitution.

Black Parents, Gay Sons, and Redefining Masculinity.

College student at LGBT rally: It’s OK to be gay in Huntsville, not rest of state.

Making Comics More And More Gay – The Hernandez Brothers, Kate Leth, And Terry Moore Talk LGBT Characters At Heroes Con 2014.

FRC is an extremely deceitful org: Example #1,234,234,921.

Social Security agency shows why Supreme Court must act on gay marriage.

Almost No Night in the Northwest.

Why Believing In Astrology Is Not As Harmless As You Think.

Black hole made peek-a-boo galaxy go mysteriously dark.

6 Amazing Cephalopod Species You Didn’t Know Existed.

Show Me Your Pride – By Miss Coco Peru:

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International Guardians of the Galaxy Trailer is awesome:

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Boyinaband -You look like a girl:

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Ferras – Speak In Tongues:

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Eli Lieb – Safe In My Hands:

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Haven’t you outgrown that?

Me at age seven, being photographed by Mom's biological father.

Me at age seven, being photographed by Mom’s biological father.

I hang onto things. Being a packrat from a long line of packrats, this should come as no surprise. And it’s something I’ve done for as long as I can remember. Take the photo I’ve picked for today’s post. If you look closely, you’ll see that the striped shirt I’m wearing is actually several sizes too small. I kept wearing that shirt, not caring that it would no longer cover my belly, for several years. I vaguely recall the argument that arose one time when I wanted to wear in to school (I think it was early in first grade). I loved my blue-striped shirt, and since I could still pull it over my skinny shoulders, I didn’t understand why I couldn’t wear it!

Several times over that years I have found myself in a conversation with an acquaintance or friend about one of my collections. I collect (or have collected in the past) a lot of things: Read More…

Times, they are a-changin’

AFP PHOTO / FLORIDA KEYS NEWS BUREAU / Carol TEDESCO

AFP PHOTO / FLORIDA KEYS NEWS BUREAU / Carol TEDESCO”

When I was still active in the Seattle Lesbian & Gay Chorus, we would occasionally have group discussions about non-musical topics. Since the chorus was a non-profit organization with a mission affirm the positive aspects of lesbian, gay, and bisexual experience and unite communities1, we would sometimes talk about some serious topics about outreach, and making the world a better place. Many times in those discussions, people would talk about their dream of a day sometime in the future when it really wouldn’t matter to anyone whether you were queer or straight.

While I longed for that day myself, I wasn’t at all confident it would happen in my lifetime. Now, I’m not so sure… Read More…

The first time…

closet.1I was 25 years old the first time I told another human being that I thought I might be gay. As I mentioned yesterday, I had tried many times to broach the subject with my best friend, but his reaction to the mere mention of the topic of gay or bi people was always so negative, I kept chickening out. And I had begged, pleaded, and sometimes angrily argued with god about it for at least a dozen years. But even when I was praying for god to take those feelings away, I couldn’t say the words out loud. What if someone else heard me?

The person I ended up telling was a new friend I had met when I transferred to a university in Seattle to finish my degree. And because the university was a Free Methodist school, being honest about my sexual orientation could have gotten me kicked out. At that time in my closeted perspective, revealing the truth to just about anyone I knew would lead to devastating consequences, so the university’s policy didn’t seem any worse than what I was already dealing with.

Anyway, eventually a number of mutual friends informed me that people were wondering why I hadn’t asked Julie out on a date… including Julie. And it was clear that some of that wondering was making people speculate about what my reasons could possibly be. Which, from past experience, meant the gay rumors were not going to be far behind. Read More…

Coming out is hard to do

aeb307b474c0100647332bebaa035fa6I’ve mentioned before a particularly close friend who didn’t take my coming out well. He insisted that it wasn’t because he had a problem with me being gay (even though he also insisted that it was a horribly sinful choice that I should repent of and do everything in my power to change). No, that wasn’t the reason we couldn’t be friends any longer. We couldn’t be friends because I hadn’t told him first. Specifically, his wife knew before he did.

I’ll unpack that parenthetical portion in a minute, but first I want to make it clear that I never told his wife… Read More…

Sunday Funnies

One thing that’s been missing from my Friday Links for some time are links to any of the web comics I follow. Two of the strips I follow more faithfully update on Friday, and now that I’ve setting up the Friday Links post on Thursday evening and scheduling it to publish, I can’t reliably have links to the strips.

I thought instead I would occasionally post recommendations to web comics, and what better way to do it than on a Sunday!

One of my faves is Mr. Cow, by Chuck Melville. Full disclosure: Chuck has been a personal friend for a long time, and I’ve had the privilege of hearing him read his prose fiction (in which he does the most awesome voices) on a regular basis, so I know I’m a little biased. But I love the simple drawing style he uses on this strip, and the classic joke-strip style of the writing. And I just love Mr. Cow.

Another favorite with a personal connection is Deer Me, by Sheryl Schopfer. I’ve known Sheryl for a while too. I’ve loved how this strip has evolved from a three-panel format to the longer, comic page format over time. Not to mention my more than slight obsession with the fictional comic within the comic, Wombat Wonder.

If you want to read a nice, long graphic-novel style story which recently published its conclusion, check-out the not quite accurately named, The Less Than Epic Adventures of T.J. and Amal by E.K. Weaver. I say inaccurate because I found their story quite epic (not to mention engaging, moving, surprising, fulfilling… I could go on). Some sections of the tale are Not Safe For Work, as they say, though she marks them clearly. The complete graphic novels are available for sale in both ebook and paper versions, by the way.

And for an artist who likes to do some awesome things with the medium (as well as just being a really good fantasy story): Unsounded by Ashley Cope. How can you resist an impish girl thief with a tail and her reluctant undead sorcerer/bodyguard?

Weekend Update

Copyright NBCI’m sorry that I’m not going to be as funny as the Saturday Night Live crew, but I had to share a few updates on some of the things I linked to just yesterday:

The Washington Times (not to be confused with the award-winning, serious newspaper, the Post) is a regular donor to the anti-gay National Organization of Marriage, was the primary sponsor of yesterday’s anti-gay marriage march, and usually finds a way to spin every story about a step forward for gay rights as a victory for their side, concedes:

Hundreds march in defense of traditional marriage.

After rallying the troops for years, and even with one New York politician recruiting people for what he told them was “a free trip to Washington, D.C. to see the monuments” (that’s right, some bus loads of people didn’t even know what they were going to), they were only able to get “hundreds.” So my caption yesterday saying it was “tens” was slightly off.

But wait, there’s more!

The official hierarchy of the Morman Church is also a regular donor to any anti-gay political action committee or group you can name (even if they did try to tone it down and hide their involvement a bit in 2012; something several of us predicted would end once Mitt Romney’s run for the White House ended, and we were right), owns it’s own newspaper, the Deseret News, and it tried to put a slightly less defeatist spin in its headline:

Small but dedicated ‘March for Marriage’ crowd occupies patch of Capitol grounds.

Funny, neither site mentions the leader of a French neo-Nazi (remember, it isn’t hyperbole when they are literally members of a Nazi Party) organization wasn’t just at the event, she was one of the people leading the march!

Leader Of Neo-Nazi Backed French Hate Group Joins NOM’s March On SCOTUS.

The Wonkette, one of my favorite sites when I need a laugh, also covered the anti-gay march, but in their own way:

HATE-FEST FASHION: YOU DON’T HAVE TO DRESS BADLY TO BE A HOMOPHOBE — BUT IT HELPS!.

The Wonkette’s piece shows some pictures of some hateful signs. It’s worth noting that the people who organize this thing, the National Organization for Marriage (NOM), keeps claiming that they are not anti-gay. They say we’re distorting their message when we call them anti-gay. They insist that they are simply defending traditional marriage, and not attacking anyone. But a quick perusal of the pictures at this article shows they are lying: Photos: Animus at #March4Marriage. You can see some more of the clearly anti-gay signs, read quotes from some of the speeches, and watch video interviews of some of the attendees to demonstrate the hate further: Inside NOM’s Second Failed “March For Marriage”. If you can stomach any more, the Daily Beast talked to a lot more of the attendees: Crucifixes, Gorillas, and Adult Diapers: My March Against Gay Marriage.

Just in case anyone ever tries to tell you that the people who oppose marriage equality aren’t anti-gay (and very ill-informed, too).

Meanwhile, in much more pleasant news:

Presbyterian Church USA Votes To Allow Pastors To Perform Same-Sex Marriages.

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