It’s mildly amusing seeing, on the stats page of the blog, search terms that people used to get here. Although most often I feel guilty, because it’s obvious that my silly blog did not have what they’re looking for.

Other times, I’m more than a little bit glad that my site is not providing what they’re looking for, such as earlier in the week when I noticed that someone came to my site using the search term: “moms who want their sons to be sissies…

Because it seems unlikely that anyone would type that phrase into a search engine without holding some very unpleasant opinions. I could be wrong. It could be someone’s awkward attempt to find a support group that’s more specialized than PFLAG (and I have it on good authority most PFLAG chapters are still a little confused by the new wave of supportive parents whose children are coming out as gay in grade school).

A big part of my suspicion is the use of the term “sissies.” Even though it can be used non-pejoratively, usually it’s meant as an insult. And a very specific sort of gender-conformative-enforcing kind of insult, at that.

Then there are the myths which the bigots are still so very fond of: gay men are the result of messed up parenting, whether it be smothering mothers or distant fathers. Though I’ve also seen people build arguments the other way: cold and/or abusive mothers and overly affectionate fathers. It’s all B.S. either way, but that search string certainly falls in line with the myth.

Which doesn’t even get into the fact that gender nonconformity and sexual orientation are barely correlated (not completely non-correlated, but it’s so complicated).

If I’m right about the motives of the person typing that search term: that they are looking for some validation of their prejudices, or trying to find something to shore up their prejudiced views in an argument that they’re having with someone, I guess I’m glad my pro-gay blog wasted some of their time.

I suppose it would be too much to hope that they read enough of the blog to feel a teeny bit of doubt. But I’m going to hope, anyway.