The internet rage machine

First World Problems (

First World Problems (

So one evening last week I was reading a blog that I check regularly, and the author posted a link to a music video. The guy posts such links semi regularly, and quite often they’re good music. Above the link to this particular one, he wrote something along the lines of, “I think that Song A by this band is the very best track released this year, but this one is pretty good, too.”

So I clicked on it…

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Sarcasm and sardonic detachment

I took a break from writing one night and went into the other room to see what my husband was doing. He was watching an animated show I’d never seen before, and I wound up watching the rest of the episode with him. Since the show was more than half over, I didn’t completely follow all the ins and outs of the plot, but it made me laugh a couple of times.

Another night I was channel surfing on my own, and happened across the same show. The episode was more than half over, again, but I enjoyed it. This happened several times; I never saw a complete episode, always catching it midway through. Also, as often happens, though I saw the show seven or eight times, I had only seen parts of maybe three episodes, because I kept happening across re-runs of episodes I’d already seen parts of.

This obviously happened back before I owned a TiVo, because what I would do now when I happen across a show like that is set the TiVo to record some episodes for me so I can watch more and see if I really like the show.

But back then I would have had to remember when the show was broadcast and make an effort to be free when it was one, or manually set a VCR to record it. Which I never did.

For several years after it went off the air, there were no re-runs…

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#WhyIStayed #WhyILeft

Why I Stayed:

Because my church, teachers, other relatives, and even a cop (after the incident of the broken collar bone and gash that required stitches) told me that sometimes a father has to go to extremes to make his son a man.

Because when you are raised from birth by your abuser, you think bruises, fractures, and lacerations are normal.

Because my church, other relatives, and even movies and TV told me that standing up for myself was being rebellious.

Because if my story didn’t match his version of events, I would be hurt worse.

Because if I got away, he’d still be able to hurt my mom and my little sister.

Why I Left:

Because the judge hearing my parents’ divorce case actually asked me which parent I wanted to live with, and why.

Unpacking some of the above:

To someone who isn’t in the abusive relationship, the solution always seems simple… Read More…

Goals? What goals?

4401480dfa7cda62d051b2def0c3f5b3When I set my goals for the year, I said I’d do regular check-ins. We’re nearly two weeks into a new month, so I ought to check in.

I tried to set very concrete steps for achieving my goals. Inspired by a friend’s suggestion, I tried to identify a better habit to replace each bad habit. So how am I doing? Read More…

Friday Links (with truth bombs)!

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It’s Friday! I’d be happier about it if I wasn’t sick. Don’t forget, September birthdays are extra special, because September babies are superior. It’s a fact. No, really.

Anyway, in honor of this second Friday in the glorious month of September, here is a collection of news and other things that I ran across over the course of the week which struck me as worthy of being shared:

5 ways America changed God. (Thanks to @foxraven for the link!)

Obama Outperforms Reagan On Jobs, Growth And Investing.

Straw man arguments are the scourge of public discourse, but there is an alternative.

Possibly headline of the week: Man With Horns and Bolts Tattoos on his Face Stabs Couple and Skates Away.

But this one is also a contender: Devil statue with giant erection pops up in Vancouver, BC [NSFW].

WATCH: Benedict Cumberbatch Has A Giggle Fit In This ‘Sherlock’ Blooper.

How they made those gorgeous end credits for Captain America: The Winter Soldier. I love these as a work of art, but also how they evoke some of classic illustration technique while evoking the characters and events of both Captain America movies.

Hot Alaska Gossip: Sarah Palin’s Whole Family Was in a Nasty Brawl. Best quote: “This isn’t some damned Hillbilly reality show!”

Pop Sonnet: Is this the waking world, or do I sleep?

Cold Dark Matter May Have Kept Our Milky Way All Alone In Its Corner Of The Universe.

EA Pledges to Fix “Gay Filter” in Sims 4.

Bush apologist hits new low: An infuriating attempt to rewrite Iraq history.

It’s hared to love gay culture if you don’t know what it is.

Social Contracts and “the Cult of Likability.”

A Conservative Judge Did A Stunning About-Face On Gay Marriage.

A Black Hole Doesn’t Die — It Does Something A Lot Weirder.

Remarkable 3,900-Year-Old Suit Of Bone Armor Found In Siberia.

Sir John Franklin: Fabled Arctic ship found.

Our birds are in real trouble. Can we fix it? Yes we can!

Pennsylvania town will no longer evict domestic violence victims who call the police seeking help.

Georgia State Senator: Voting Is Too Convenient For Black People.

Ancient Egyptian Art Contains The Records of Past Extinctions.

Al Franken Drops a Truth Bomb On The Senate: Citizens United Is Money Laundering.

The Best Commentary on Ray Rice’s Suspension Comes From Joe Biden.

Southern secessionist group forming paramilitary unit called the “Indomitables.”

With genetic testing, I gave my parents the gift of divorce.

20-Year Mystery of the Universe’s Brightest Objects Solved.

Huffington Post: We Figured Out Why The Westboro Baptist Church Hates Us So Much.

Tennessee Pastor Robert Gallaty Suggests Gays ‘Must Be Put To Death’ Or Remain Celibate.

Two New Rulings Unmask the Weakness of the Case Against Marriage Equality.

Fossils push back origins of modern mammals.

Shattering DNA may have let gibbons evolve new species.

So You Want to Understand Bayes’ Theorem and/or Look at Photos of Cats.

The Planets that Never Were.

A High-end Watch Guy’s Thoughts On The Apple Watch After Seeing It In The Metal.

Life In The Only State Where Gay Couples Can Get Married One Day, Fired The Next.

Robert Plant – Rainbow | Official Music Video:

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In The Ray Rice Situation, Everyone Must Go:

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What a lovely song: Holly Johnson ‘In And Out Of Love’ (Official Video):

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A Den Of Kittens (just 2 and a half minutes of purring kittens, really):

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Baby Bear on Golf Course – At Fairmont Hot Springs Resort, BC:

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…but I don’t hate anyone!

A while back someone objected to my post where I said that, in this day and age, if the first thought that comes to mind when thinking about a gay neighborhood is “AIDS,” that indicates a certain level of ignorance and bigotry. The reasoning presented in the objection boiled down to, “maybe I’m not as well-informed as you are, but that doesn’t mean I’m bigoted. I don’t hate anyone!”

First, I didn’t say hatred, I said bigotry. Bigotry is formally defined as “obstinate and unreasonable adherence to an opinion or idea.” Depending on the context it can shade into narrow-minded intolerance, or blind and excessive zeal, as well as dismissiveness of other ideas. But the central meaning, and the meaning I intended was that “unreasonable adherence to an idea.”

The unreasonable idea (the idea not supported by facts), is not even the obvious one… Read More…

Rough, manly sport, part 5

I’ve written many times before about my own ambivalent relationship with football. And, as we enter the second week of the regular season, my enthusiasm for my Seahawks is high after our great opening game, but my deep misgivings about the league and the institution have me at a low, and not just because of the case that everyone has been talking about this week.

First, let’s talk about Michael Sam…

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Oops. I clicked publish instead of preview while still working on it!

Now it’s posted here: Rough, manly sport, part 5.

Oh! That explains it!

I’ve mentioned before that I used to be active on Queernet, which was run as both a Usenet group and a mailing list. And because I posted and/or replied to other people’s posts on there a lot, I more than occasionally got hate mail. Because even back in late 80s/early 90s ultraconservative haters trolled the net looking for people to spew vitriol at. And one of those trolls was a member of the Westboro Baptist Church clan, usually logging in as Ben Phelps. And every single hate mail that he sent to any of us on that list included some reference to butt sex.

Even when he was yelling at bisexual women, lesbians, or people who identified as straight allies…

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Why I hate hay fever reason #23


…and a cold cloth for my head, please.

One of my biggest gripes about my body’s particular hay fever symptoms is that often I can’t tell the difference between worse than usual hay fever days and coming down with a cold.

This year’s hay fever season started out really awful in March and April. So bad that I had been bracing myself for a horrid summer. While I had almost non-stop mild hay fever symptoms for the entirety of May, June, July, and August, I only had moderately bad days every now and then, only really bad once or twice.

Friday, Saturday, and Sunday were all moderately bad. Then I had trouble sleeping Sunday night/Monday morning. Thank goodness the third time I woke up to get a drink of water (I always wake up thirsty several times in the middle of the night on bad hay fever days… but also when I have a cold), I became conscious enough to take some extra decongestant. Otherwise my sinus headache would be much, much worse than it is.

My husband is on an earlier work schedule for summer, so I’ve tended to get up when he leaves, which is before my second alarm. This morning I barely woke up when he kissed me good-bye. I had trouble getting out of bed to stagger to the alarm clock to turn it off for the second alarm. And similarly had difficulty staggering across the room to turn off the third alarm.

While I was trying to force myself to wake up enough to take a guess as to how many hours it had been since I took the decongestant (so I could know when I could take something else) I looked up the pollen count.

It’s low. Very, very low. And has been for the last couple of days.

And I have a low grade fever.



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