Oh! That explains it!

I’ve mentioned before that I used to be active on Queernet, which was run as both a Usenet group and a mailing list. And because I posted and/or replied to other people’s posts on there a lot, I more than occasionally got hate mail. Because even back in late 80s/early 90s ultraconservative haters trolled the net looking for people to spew vitriol at. And one of those trolls was a member of the Westboro Baptist Church clan, usually logging in as Ben Phelps. And every single hate mail that he sent to any of us on that list included some reference to butt sex.

Even when he was yelling at bisexual women, lesbians, or people who identified as straight allies…

It was always very angry (often parts of the message in all caps) references to butt sex. And he’s not the only one. Find any news site or blog that posts any news about gay rights, and scroll down into the comments section. You never have to go far before you find someone posting about the “someone sticking his wee-wee in another boy’s butt!” (This is a literal quote from a comment on a news story I read on the Atlantic‘s web site last week. I didn’t mean to read the comments, but in order to see the final sentence of the story I had to scroll down, and the second comment included the phrase I quoted.)

I’ve always been a little confused about why the haters are so fixated on anal sex. For one thing, it’s a fact (and not just any fact, but a statistical fact) that there are a lot more straight people engaging in anal sex than gay people, simply because there are far more straight people than gay. It is also a fact that a lot of gay people don’t engage in anal sex. Lots of guys only like to do other things. I’ve known guys who broke up with someone that they really got along with because one of them was into anal sex and the other wasn’t. At all.

We already know that a high percentage of the folks who are vehemently anti-gay are repressing their own gay or bisexual feelings. This has been proven many times in some rather interesting studies. So we can infer that a lot of the haters and wingnuts are so fixated on “dirty butt sex” because some of them secretly fantasize about doing it themselves. And they have to yell angrily at us about how disgusting it is lest anyone think that that’s all they can think about.

But, as I mention, not all gay men enjoy or even want to think about anal sex. So not all repressed, self-loathing closet cases will, either. And some of those haters aren’t gay (though it’s definitely a minority). So why are thy always ranting about butt sex?

Finally, Tumblr of all places, provided the answer:

when straight guys ask how lesbian sex works i feel really bad for their girlfriends because if you dont understand how to have sex with a girl in any way other than repeatedly putting your dick in her you are having some really bad sex – attributed to tobeymacguire on tumblr (though the blog by that name appears to contain no content)

I finally understood! It’s the same people! The only way the straight haters know how to have sex with a girl is to repeatedly put their dicks in her. In other words, they are extremely selfish and lousy lovers. And since they are totally unaware of all the other wonderful and interesting ways that two people who love each other can make each other feel good, they assume that gay men must be doing the only act that approximates the only sex act they know how to do.

Which is a rather elaborate way of saying that they are unimaginative idiots, which we all knew already.

But it’s nice to finally be able to connect all the dots.


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About fontfolly

I've loved reading for as long as I can remember. I write fantasy, science fiction, mystery, and nonfiction. I used to publish an anthropomorphic sci-fi/space opera literary fanzine. I attend and work on the staff for several anthropormorphics, anime, and science fiction conventions. I live near Seattle with my wonderful husband, still completely amazed that he puts up with me at all.

2 responses to “Oh! That explains it!”

  1. Sheryl says :

    You’ve probably seen this comic before, but your post made me think of it.

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