Monthly Archives: December 2020

Friday Five (enduring American asshole edition)

We have reached the second Friday in December. Which means I ought to be further along and/or happier with t draft scenes I have for my annual Christmas Ghost Story but, alas, it does not.

Work continues to be insanely busy. A conversation I had with one of my medical specialists left me suspecting that my February sickness was more serious than it seemed, but also that it wasn’t useful on either a personal nor a species/scientific community basis at this point to test me for antibodies. Speaking with my specialist left me no less convinced that I need to take the vaccine as soon as it is available to me, but also less than optimistic about a rather large portion of the population. Let’s just say that even though I was already really f–ing angry at Fox News for turning my mother and at least two of my Aunts into sociopaths, I’m not feeling any more optimistic about the future of the general population.

But let’s get to the Friday Five. This week I bring you: three stories that have nothing to do with any of the anxiety-inducing things happening in the world, the top five stories of the week, five stories of interest to queers and allies, five stories about crooks & liars, five stories about the pandemic, five stories about the petty crime boss occupying the whitehouse, and five videas (plus notable obituaries and some things I wrote).

This Week In News We Need Right Now!:

The Voice: Gwen Stefani BREAKS DOWN in Tears Over Carter Rubin’s Rainbow Connection Performance>. Scroll down to the video section to watch and hear the incredible performance.

Dog Was Lost in the Woods for 10 Days With a Winter Storm on the Way – But a Drone Saved the Day>.

‘Best buddies’: Grieving pit bull finds joy again with companion, a tabby kitten rescued by a firefighter>.

Stories of the Week:

Pepperidge Farm parent company warns cookies in short supply this holiday season>.

Those Viral Hospital iPads Are a ‘Lifeline’ for Covid Patients>.

Asteroid capsule located in Australian desert>.

A Mild Case Of COVID May Cause Erectile Dysfunction – Will risk of long-term erection issues be enough to get Trump-supporting men to FINALLY wear masks>?

Conspiracy Theorists Complain 5G ‘Blockers’ Slow Their WiFi>. Who would have thought that a device which claims to block 90% of radio signals would impede the WiFi signal [/sarcams]?

This Week in News for Queers and Allies:

Lithuanian Anti-LGBTQ Lawmaker Caught with ‘Naked’ Man During Online Parliamentary Session>.

Pelosi holds firm to support for transgender kids under hostile questioning>.

‘Your kind is not welcome’: Homophobic confrontation sparks debate in Wyoming – A bigoted incident in the rural northwest part of the state has prompted others in the community to stand up and say, “Enough.”>.

Trump’s new religious exemptions for employers an invitation to discriminate, critics say>.

Frustration builds as Biden’s Cabinet includes no LGBTQ picks>.

This Week in Crooks, Liars and Other Deplorable People:

Man who claimed to have bomb at headquarters of Spokane Democrats in police custody>.

FTC and states sue Facebook for illegally stifling competition>.

He Pretended to Be Trump’s Family. Then Trump Fell for It>.

US Marshalls apprehend fugitive gay basher in Texas>.

Giuliani Witness Melissa Carone Sent Harassing Sex Tapes To Fiancé’s Ex-Wife >.

This Week in the Pandemic:

Vaccine Advisory Committee Endorses Pfizer Covid-19 Vaccine, Paves Way For FDA Authorization>.

Trump Holds Packed Hanukkah Party at White House Amid COVID-19 Pandemic That Has Killed 289,000 in U.S.>.

Giuliani witness whose false and seemingly drunk testimony went viral Mellissa Carone says she’s not self-quarantining after Giuliani’s COVID-19 diagnosis>. Bonus:

This Is Only Going to Get Worse – The United States is entering a long, dark period, and the pandemic is already breaking records from the spring>.

The Billionaires Who Profited from the Pandemic Should Help Pay for Our Recovery – A new plan from the United Kingdom suggests that a onetime pandemic levy on a country’s wealthiest citizens could be the most practical and …>.

This Week in the Deplorable Thug Occupying the White House:

Jake Tapper Delivers Blistering Commentary on the State of the Republican Party: ‘If You Cross the President, You Actually Fear for Your Life’>.

Trying To Force States And The Supreme Court To Overturn The Election… – Trying To Force States And The Supreme Court To Overturn The Election…ON TWITTER>.

Melania Trump ‘just wants to go home’ as president continues to dispute election result – A rumoured run by Donald Trump for president in 2024 would reportedly ‘not go over well’>.

Trump asks Supreme Court to invalidate millions of votes in battleground states >.

Trump campaign strategist Jason Miller tells judge he’ll be unemployed after Dec. 15 – Despite public reporting, Trump campaign is still keeping Jason Miller’s $420,000 salary a secret — but why>?

In Memoriam:

David Lander, Squiggy in ‘Laverne & Shirley,’ Dies at 73>.

Laverne & Shirley’s David Lander Remembered by Michael McKean: ‘This Is a Loss Shared by All of Us’>.

Former Sen. Paul Sarbanes of Maryland dies>.

Things I wrote:

Weekend Update 12/5/2020: Clearing out the tabs…>.

The magic slab of glass that contains all my friends… or not>.

Videos!

The Late Show with Stephen Colbert – Supreme Court Refuses To Invalidate Pennsylvania’s Mail-In Votes In Major Rebuke Of The President:

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New Orleans Orgy Organizers Regret Lax Enforcement Of Social Distancing Rules:

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Chilling Adventures of Sabrina Part 4 | Official Trailer | Netflix:

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Pandemic-era gay loneliness summed up in one video – How Do You Feel?:

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15-year-old Carter Rubin Sings “Rainbow Connection” from The Muppet Movie – The Voice Live Top 9 Performances:

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The magic slab of glass that contains all my friends… or not

A few years ago at a science fiction convention an author on one of the panels I attended described a modern smart phone as “the magic slab of glass that fits in my pocket and contains all of my friends,” which I thought was a really wonderful way to sum-up how that miniaturized computer which (among other things) obviates a telephone functions on a social level. Engineers and certain kinds of techies worry about the ins and outs of the physical technology, the software, and the networks that enable the functionality. But the sociological impact of that technology is something that most of the engineers who worked all those years to make it a reality didn’t foresee.

As a very early adopter of the internet (being a denizen of the old FidoNet to access UseNet groups back before the World Wide Web existed), in some ways I’ve lived in that space for a long time. Heck, since before those days I was involved in old school fanzines where everyone wrote physical letters that we sent to each other via the U.S. Postal Service to collaboratively create art and fiction, I have been used to the idea of friends who may be people I have never met in person for even longer.

So that description really resonated with me.

On the other hand, I have worked in the telecommunication software industry for about 33 years—during which time I have worked at everything from testing code and hardware, to coding, designing software systems, and writing both user documents, developer documents, help systems, and more—I have more than a bit of understanding as to what went in to creating the magic of the slab of glass that fits in your pocket.

For some of us, our smart phone/magic slab of glass is an integral part of every day. I thought I understood that before, but recently I have become even more acutely aware of how dependent I’ve become on my smart phone. Which requires a bit of explanation.

My employer has been migrating a lot of our tools (as well as our code and document repositories) to cloud services. More recently, they decided that for the most part we shouldn’t access company data with machines not owned by the company (which, frankly, defeats the point of putting things in the cloud, but…). So, for instance, a couple months ago they shipped me a company phone, and instructed me to move the three multi-factor authentication apps that I have to use to access various services off of my personal phone. This is more than a little ridiculous, because the authentication apps themselves don’t contain nor directly access company data. But, that’s their decision.

The phone they gave me is an iPhone XR, and it came with a matte black case. My personal phone is an iPhone 11. Even though my personal phone is purple and has a clear plastic case, when they are both asleep a sitting on the table or desk they look an awful lot alike. So, for instance, if I hear an sound that indicates a new direct message from one of my co-workers, about one-third of the time I grab my personal phone rather than the work phone. Which only wastes a few seconds, but it is still a little annoying.

More annoying is that if I walk away from my desk—whether to go the the bathroom, or get some more coffee from the kitchen, or maybe to take a break outside on the veranda—I grab my phone so I can catch up on Twitter and personal email and/or check the news. And, again, about a third of the time I pick up the company phone rather than mine, and don’t realize it until I’m all the way outside or in the other room.

That’s a bit more of an inconvenience.

And sometimes I don’t even notice immediately. I will flip through the home screen pages trying to figure out where my News app is, or Tweetbot, or why are their no email accounts at all in the Mail app (company email is all on Outlook, and I access it through the Outlook app rather than the built-in iOS Mail app).

I do not want to put my personal information on the company phone. As the company suggested, I created an Apple ID based on the corporate email address for use on the phone, so I can update that phone and download free apps (rather than just the ones available through the enterprise portal) if I decide I need them, and that’s find. But I don’t want to set it up as yet another device accessing my personal email and my twitter stream, et cetera.

I know it’s a first world problem, and even then, it is a fairly minor inconvenience. I get irritated and try to be more careful to really look at the phone as I reach for it. But human perception relies on extrapolation and guessing rather than actively processing every single nerve impulse that comes it. So our brain subconsciously makes quick assessments of things based on basic shape, size, and what we expect to see when we glance at something. There are reasons in makes sense that our brains evolved that way–in a dangerous situation you don’t want to waste critical moments resolving every detail within the field of vision.

But it means this issue is going to be a problem going forward one way or another. Like how I might grab the wrong keys while heading out to the car.

It just reminds me, every time it happens, how I’ve gotten used to being about to browse the world in this magic slab of glass in order to fill in some of the downtime of life.

Weekend Update 12/5/2020: Clearing out the tabs…

Instead of a bunch of links and me ranting about the news, here are things I bookmarked the last two weeks:

Gay dance duo show what it’s like to come out to your dad in “incredible” performance>:

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Friday Five (lonely elephant edition)

We have reached the first Friday in December. Which seems both weird and miraculous, time having become a fog for so many of us. I suspect that I am not the only one who frequently checks the calendar to count how many days we have to endure before January 20th arrives.

It has been cold and dry this week. Because there has been nearly zero cloud cover all week, the temperature drops every day drastically come night fall. Which, this time of year, happens before 4:30. I don’t know if it’s related to the weather, but all week long two of the four squirrels that regularly come to the squirrel feeder on my deck and dig around in my flower pots, have be really angry at each other. The keep getting into fights, anyway.

But let’s get to the Friday Five. This week I bring you: two stories that have nothing to do with any of the anxiety-inducing things happening in the world, the top five stories of the week, five stories of interest to queers and allies, five stories about space science, five stories about the pandemic, five stories about crooks & liars, and five videas (plus notable obituaries and some things I wrote).

This Week In News We Need Right Now!:

Cher singing to “The World’s Loneliest Elephant” is all the sweetness you need today.

A Little Bit Of Christmas.

Stories of the Week:

A Day In The Life Of Dr. Anthony Fauci – What does one of the top infectious disease experts do when he’s sidelined by the White House during COVID-19? Plenty.

Hello! You’ve Been Referred Here Because You’re Wrong About Section 230 Of The Communications Decency Act.

‘Time For My Flag to Go Up’: How Anti-Trumpers Are Reclaiming the American Flag – Over the past four years, the flag has been re-cast as a kind of MAGA shorthand. Now, Trump foes are ready to take the symbol back.

Fewer than half of Americans know that alcohol is a carcinogen. Big Booze wants to keep it that way.

Mysterious Monolith Update: Racists Destroy California Monolith, Proclaim Christ Superior to Space Aliens.

This Week in News for Queers and Allies:

Federal judge rules requiring “proof” of gender identity for a passport is unconstitutional – The judge granted a transgender man a passport, saying the government violated his Fifth Amendment rights.

LGBTQ Organizations Urge Media to Stop ‘Deadnaming’ Transgender Stars After Elliot Page Comes Out.

Corporate America loves LGBTQ people & anti-LGBTQ politicians – The US Chamber of Commerce says it supports LGBTQ equality but it is spending $2 million to support two anti-LGBTQ Republican Senators in their runoff election – and that race will decide the fate of LGBTQ rights.

A New Day for Queer People in the South – North Carolina’s ban on local protections for LGBTQ people expires today. But more fights lie ahead.

Hate crimes on the rise in King County, prosecutors say – The King County Prosecuting Attorneys Office says 51 hate crime cases have been reported so far this year.

This Week in the Space Science:

China’s Chang’e-5 Moon mission probe touches down.

A very ancient globular cluster orbits the Andromeda Galaxy.

Huge Puerto Rico radio telescope, already damaged, collapses.

Asteroid 2020 SO images reveal mystery object is likely a piece of NASA rocket.

Betelgeuse went dark, but didn’t go supernova. What happened? – The bright star’s great dimming may have been a big dust burp.

This Week in Crooks, Liars and Other Deplorable People:

Former U.S. Attorney Asks Georgia to Investigate Lindsey Graham for Potential Election Crimes.

Here Are the Threats Terrorizing Election Workers – Incendiary rhetoric by President Trump and his followers is fueling a wave of threats against election workers. Some have received death threats and images of nooses and been told “You’re a traitor.”.

Judge denies motions to dismiss 2 of 6 counts against Kyle Rittenhouse – Kyle Rittenhouse bound over for trial on six counts.

Trump-appointed former Miller aide banned from Department of Justice after trying to obtaing case info – Banned From DOJ Offices For Snooping.

The Coup That Hasn’t Happened Yet – Oh, you thought there would be a coup just because the president repeatedly said there would be?

This Week in the Pandemic:

WA nurse has lingering effects from COVID months later, returning to work.

102-year-old woman beats COVID-19 twice.

Vaccines Are Coming, but Pandemic Experts Expect a ‘Horrible’ Winter – With vaccines and a new administration, the pandemic will be tamed. But experts say the coming months “are going to be just horrible.”

Coronavirus Was Already Spreading in America by Last Christmas, Study Finds.

Hawaii police arrest couple who boarded flight despite testing positive for coronavirus.

In Memoriam:

Legendary Science Fiction Author Ben Bova Has Passed at the Age of 88.

David Prowse, “Star Wars” and “A Clockwork Orange” Actor, Dead at 85 – He’s best known for his work bringing Darth Vader to the screen.

David Prowse, Actor Behind Darth Vader, Dies At 85.

Gay wrestling star Pat Patterson dead at 79.

Pat Patterson, WWE Legend and First Openly Gay Wrestling Superstar, Dies at 79 – Hall of Famer was WWF’s first Intercontinental Champion and later created the Royal Rumble Match.

Things I wrote:

To absent friends… 2020.

Words and numbers and other things that matter.

Videos!

Sykes Calls This Time ‘The Most Dangerous 60 Days Of The Trump Presidency’ | Deadline | MSNBC:

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New Orleans Orgy Organizers Regret Lax Enforcement Of Social Distancing Rules:

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John Mulaney on Secret Service Investigation, SNL Joke Backlash & Writing for Seth Meyers:

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President Obama’s Mother-In-Law Helped Keep The First Family Down To Earth:

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Bells, Bows, Gifts, Trees:

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Words and numbers and other things that matter

Most of my free time in November was spent working on NaNoWriMo. I managed to write a bit over 54,000 words. That’s more than the NaNoWriMo target, but less than I’ve managed in some years. Which isn’t to say that I’m not happy about how much I wrote! I’m actually quite pleased that I managed to stay on track with everything going on.

There were a lot of things I wanted to blog about more in depth last month, but since I was trying to finish NaNo, I mostly kept my blogging to Friday Five each week and a few links posts in-between. More than one of those topics that I really wanted to talk about had absolutely nothing to do with the elections, the erosion of our Republic, or international issues.

For instance, a topic came across my various information streams a couple of times. One of the times was someone tweeted about how they didn’t understand why so many straight guys think that it is cool to commemorate the anniversary with their wife by posting a picture with a caption that said, “It took me four years, but I finally wore her down and she married me! Now we’ve been together X years and I’m so glad!” And further in her twitter thread she or one of the people replying to her original were just as boggled that there are women out there who think it’s funny that this is how their husband “wooed” them.

And I agree! Who wants to spend the rest of their life with someone who you coerced into the relationship? Why take pride in that? What you’re saying is not that you are a great husband, and certainly not that you are a great romancer, but rather that you managed to somehow convince them they would never get the kind of husband they wanted and deserved. And why do you think that’s something worth bragging about?

I understand how women are socialized to go along with this—for instance, all the romantic comedies out there are merely a subset of the ways that our culture is geared toward brainwashing us into accepting that when a man doesn’t take “no” for an answer it’s supposed to be charming (when in fact it is creepy as all f—), but it still flabbergasts me a bit.

Because here’s the deal: I think my husband is awesome. I consider myself very lucky that he likes me at all, let alone agreed to marry me and lives with me and has put up with me for 22 years. I am happy especially happy that he decided that I was worth dating, and continuing to date, and eventually moving in with, and so forth without me having to coerce him, right? And I am likewise happy that most of my friends have spouses who they think are awesome, and who think they are awesome in return (and, you know, these are my friends, and I think that anyone who loves one of my friends as much as each of their spouses do are pretty fabulous in their own right).

Yes, I have had friends who were dating or engaged to or (in a few cases) married to someone who I thought was awful. And I have been very glad (and eager to help) when those friends decided to dump the mother-f—er and look for someone better.

And to digress further: one of my happiest and proudest memories is when my ex-wife asked me to be her maid of honor at her second wedding, because, oh my goodness, her second husband is one of the nicest and most talented people I’ve ever known, and is so much of a better fit for her than the loser she was married to before!

(Some of you may need to diagram that out. I’ll give you a minute to do that.)

(I should also acknowledge that several of my friends—after reading the paragraph above the previous parenthetical—will chastise me for calling myself a loser; even though they will also know that I put it in there for humor’s sake.)

And it’s more than just learning to take “no” for an answer and moving on. It’s more than just getting a person to a point where they are tired of saying, “no.”

The word you want isn’t merely “yes,” but a yes delivered freely and with great enthusiasm.

To absent friends… 2020

The theme for the 2020 observance is “Ending the HIV/AIDS Epidemic: Resilience and Impact”
The theme for the 2020 observance is “Ending the HIV/AIDS Epidemic: Resilience and Impact”

Today is World AIDS Day. Each year, I spend part of the day remembering people I have known who left this world too soon because of that disease.

So: Frank, Mike, Tim, David, Todd, Chet, Jim, Steve, Brian, Rick, Stacy, Phil, Mark, Michael, Jerry, Walt, Charles, Thomas, Mike, Richard, Bob, Mikey, James, Lisa, Todd, Kerry, Glen, Brad, and Jack. Some of you I didn’t know for very long. Two of you were relatives. One of you was one of my best friends in high school and college.

I miss you all. It was a privilege to know you.

Joe Jervis at JoeMyGod.com often posts this story to commemorate the day: Membership: A Memory For World AIDS Day.

Who could imagine that I would see my own country refuse to deal with a deadly epidemic twice in my lifetime?