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I've loved reading for as long as I can remember. I write fantasy, science fiction, mystery, and nonfiction. For more than 20 years I edited and published an anthropomorphic sci-fi/space opera literary fanzine. I attend and work on the staff for several anthropormorphics, anime, and science fiction conventions. I live near Seattle with my wonderful husband, still completely amazed that he puts up with me at all.

Oppressed Oppressors, part 4

The percentage of Americans with no religious affiliation has grown since 2007 in both political parties. Source: Wall Street Journal, November 3, 2015.
The percentage of Americans with no religious affiliation has grown since 2007 in both political parties. © Wall Street Journal (Click to embiggen)
I always regret giving in to the emails, pokes, not to mention questions directly from some of my relatives about looking at Facebook1. The most recent example of why I shouldn’t look at Facebook wasn’t the crazy anti-immigrant meme that one of my cousins was sharing, it was the commentary he made along it: that it’s wrong to let these foreigners into the country, especially while treating good Christian white guys like him as a minority in his own country. There are so many ways to unpack that that I don’t even know where to begin2.

I didn’t begin, by the way. I’ve stopped attempting to communicate with him at all ever since the conversation a year or two ago while he was ranting about the War on Christmas where I tried to point out that not everyone who objects to manager scenes and the ten commandments in courthouses are foreigners who refuse to “learn our ways.”

So when I saw a news story today about a Pew poll showing that White Christians now make up less than half of the U.S. population, I realized this sort of irrationality is going to get a lot worse. Studies have already shown that people who are members of a privileged class start feeling as if something is being monopolized by another group when that group achieves 30% of the screen time or talk time, et cetera7. So now that White Christians actually do make up a minority, well, it’s not going to be pretty.

Of course many of them have felt that they were in the minority for a long time. I remember a few years back when the percentage of people who identified as non-Catholic Christian went below 50% that folks in the religious rightwing went bananas, claiming that Christians were now in the minority. This reveals a tiny piece of one of the major issues, here. Which is that a lot of the sorts of people who will non-ironicly talk about “taking back our country” don’t think that everyone (a lot of everyone) who claims to be a Christian actually is.

Another revelatory bit is an amusing string of posts that have been going around Tumblr. The original post talks about how sometimes the sheer cruelty of some homophobes makes them wish you could set them up with a blindfold, a stick, and a hornet’s nest, but tell them it’s actually a piñata. Someone else responded by commenting how casually anti-Christian most liberals are, and how they (the Christian commenter) are once again being demonized for their beliefs. The original poster then points out the the post said absolutely nothing about Christians, “but you chose to put yourself in there.” It isn’t liberals who define Christianity as anti-gay, it’s all the anti-gay people who call themselves Christians and claim that Christianity is anti-gay who have defined Christianity as anti-gay. The part that doesn’t often get acknowledged even on the liberal side, is that those folks refuse to accept anyone who doesn’t share their anti-gay views as part of their faith.

And I’m not just saying this because of a few Tumblr posts. During the lead-up to the 2012 Presidential Election, as Mitt Romney seemed poised to sew up the nomination, he met with the Rev. Franklin Graham, son of evangelist Billy Graham, (and the current head of Billy Graham Ministries). After Romney promised to fight marriage equality tooth and nail, a large section the the Graham Ministries website which had been there up until that meeting that went into great detail “proving” that the Mormon Church is a cult, rather than a legitimate part of Christianity, simply vanished. Literally deleted without comment. And suddenly Franklin Graham and all of the rest of the rightwing evangelicals were endorsing Romney.

A similar thing happened with Graham Ministries and Liberty University and the Moral Majority and such a couple of decades before when they all stopped referring to the Catholic Church as a cult (which they often described as ‘the whore of Babylon”) and the pope as the antichrist. It was 1994, after two years of the Clinton presidency, and it was becoming clear that popular sentiment was become less explicitly anti-gay. There was even a big conference that resulted in a bunch of evangelical leaders and Catholic leaders signing a document that supposedly outlined common doctrine. Except the document was mostly focused on a list of political goals, not least of which was overturning gay rights laws where they existed, and opposing any expansion of anti-discrimination laws by adding sexual orientation or gender identity.

So, while they like to claim that the word of god is inerrant and unchanging, they certainly are more than willing to forget all sorts of doctrinal differences in the name of preventing queers from having equal rights, or women from having control over their own bodies, or mega rich people having to pay taxes.

Because clearly when Jesus said to welcome foreigners, feed the hungry, visit the sick, clothe the naked, and so on, what he really meant was that god only helps those who help themselves… and happen to be white, and claim to be Christian, and never do anything foolish such as being born in poverty or in another country.

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Footnotes:

1. What’s the joke? “If I wanted to listen to my rightwing relatives most racist opinions I’d call them more often”?

2. First, there is the explicit notion that it’s perfectly okay to treat minorities poorly…3

3. It would be petty of me to also ask why a guy who hasn’t set foot inside a church in 30-some years except to attend someone’s funeral or wedding describes himself as Christian4.

4. And while church attendance doesn’t necessarily equate to belief, let’s just say no one in their right mind would describe his lifestyle as being even vaguely Biblical.

5. Note that it is not that Christians no longer make up a majority (They’re still about 70% of the population), nor even that Whites are no longer a majority. It’s that particular combination of being both White and a Christian. I think the more interesting statistic is that White Christians still make up about 70% of all Republican-leaning voters. While Democratic-leaning almost exactly one-third White Christian, a bit less than one-third non-White Christian, and then a bit more than one-third people of all races who either identify with another religion or none at all6.

6. Note that this still means that 64% of Democrats are Christian. So the Democratic Party is hardly the bastion of godlessness that some would have you believe.

7. Those same studies show that folks in the dominant group think that other groups are getting “equal time” when their representation or recognition amounts to 15%.

Quality vs quantity is a false dichotomy

"Quantity produces quality. If you only write a few things, you're doomed." --Ray Bradbury
“Quantity produces quality. If you only write a few things, you’re doomed.” –Ray Bradbury
When I was planning this year’s National Novel Writing Month (NaNoWriMo) project, I set myself a goal of writing at least three or four pep talk style posts about the importance of not giving up and/or about some writing tricks and tips that seemed appropriate as I moved along. I did write about three such posts before November began, aimed at convincing people who were considering giving it a try, or who had considered it before but thought they couldn’t do it to take a shot.

But my plan didn’t quite work out. Part of the issue was that about the time when a lot of people might need a little encouragement to keep going, I got bogged down in some of my own issues, and my previous fast pace slowed way down.

Today, shortly after noon, I crossed the 50,000 word finish line. Though I haven’t quite finished the story I set out to write, so I’m going to keep working and see just how high a word count I can rack up before the end of the month. But there is still a week left, and some topics have come up in my conversations with writing buddies on Twitter and similar forums.

The biggest one is the old cliché about quality vs. quantity. It manifests in various ways. One friend said that because he didn’t think a lot of what he wrote this month is moving his original plot along, that the word count is some sort of cheat. This misses the point of a rough draft: it’s all right to have a lot of bad stuff that needs to be revised, rewritten, or deleted later. It’s a lot easier to clean up a mess of words and sharpen it into a good story than it is to write the work from a blank page. Fill up the pages (virtual or otherwise) with all the ideas, and then clean it up later.

We all wish that what we did was sit down at the keyboard, typed the story from the beginning until the end, and then when we re-read it afterward, discovered that it was a complete masterpiece, perfect in every way. That isn’t reality, for anyone, no matter how talented or experienced. Yes, as you practice and improve, a lot more of your rough draft is good stuff that needs little clean up, but the only way you get to that point is to spend a long time writing far-from-perfect stuff. Improvement comes from doing things mostly wrong, trying something slightly different next time, and over time learning how to recognize the good stuff when you produce it, and how to discard the not-good stuff.

You have to produce a whole lot of bad art or writing before you can make good art. No matter how bad your writing is, some of it is going to be better than other bits. Keep practicing, and the ratio of bad-to-good will improve.

So don’t despair. Don’t give up. Don’t get down on yourself. At this stage, you’re not making a final product. The old joke is that making a sculpture of a noble horse is easy, you take a big rock and knock off all he pieces that don’t look like a horse. At this point you’re assembling as much rough draft as you can, so later you can cut away all the pieces that don’t look like a final story.

“Quantity produces quality. If you only write a few things, you’re doomed.”
—Ray Bradbury

Friday Links (Remembrance edition)

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International Transgender Day of Remembrance http://tdor.info/ (Click to embiggen)
Thank goodness it’s Friday. November is moving along! It’s already the 20th, which means that today is the International Transgender Day of Remembrance

NaNoWriMo is taking up a lot of my time, so I’m not doing as much online news reading as usual. Anyway, here is a collection of some of the things that I ran across over the course of the week which struck me as worthy of being shared. Sorted into categories with headings so you can skip more easily:

Link of the Week

Former ISIS hostage, French reporter tortured for 10 months: They *want* us to retaliate.

This Week in Diversity

Russian Witch Baba Yaga’s Guide To Feminism.

The history of the Transgender Day of Remembrance.

This week in People Doing Good Things

Paris attacks: Restaurant worker who saved two women.

Can Cities End the School-to-Prison Pipeline? Relentless Organizers Are Tallying Wins.

This week in Evil, Greedy People

The company that raised the price of a drug by 5,000% posted a $14.6 million net loss in the third quarter.

News for queers and our allies:

3 Powerful Ways to Observe Transgender Day of Remembrance.

Moschino Barbie Boys. “It’s wonderful that we live in a world where conventionally masculine pro basketball players and soccer players can be out, as well as Olympic skiers and ass-kicking/porn-making boxers. But little boys who play with barbies—and grow up to be iconic fashion-house-reviving designers—aren’t a “harmful stereotype.” Those boys exist and there’s nothing wrong with them. And those boys came out first (because they couldn’t hide) and they came out swinging. It was little girly boys who made it safe for masculine gay dudes to come out and not the other way around.”

Starbucks Turns 97 Seattle Locations Into LGBT Safe Spaces.

GLAAD launches trans microaggressions photo project #transwk.

BUILDING RESILIENCE AND COMMUNITY DURING TRANSGENDER AWARENESS WEEK.

The Hidden History of Gay Purges at Colleges.

This Is What Happens At A Formal For LGBT Teens.

Science!

Article: Apollo 12: A Giant Leap for Trolldom.

Canada Opens the Door for Science Once Again.

Newly Discovered Bacteria Can Resist All Antibiotics. It’s a slightly misleading headline. This bacteria can resist the so-called “last resort” antibiotic. It does NOT have the mutations necessary to resist other antibiotics. However, as the article points out, it is only a matter of time.

Science Fiction, Fantasy and Speculation!

Being a Superhero Isn’t Helping Thor Fight Cancer.

Science-fiction, fantasy, and all the things in between.

Culture war news:

Dalai Lama: Stop Praying for Paris — Humans Created This Problem and Humans Must Solve It.

Reviving the ‘Liberal Media’ Myth.

Arrest Pastor Kevin Swanson?

At Least 100,000 Texas Women Have Performed Their Own Abortions.

“No evidence” to support “unfounded allegations” against Planned Parenthood: Attorney General Ferguson. That’s my attorney general (we elect the state attorney general here in Washington)

This is America in the age of decay: How we became a civilization dominated by racism & rage. What America and the world now face isn’t a clash of civilizations. It’s a struggle against our darkest impulses

This Week in the Clown Car

This is why Ben Carson lies: The dark, disturbing reality of race, religion and today’s right-wing.

Donald Trump Won’t Rule Out Special ID Cards For Muslim Americans.

“Syria-ously hot!” The right responds to Paris with Bible-thumping, scientific illiteracy, frat boy antics.

Stephen Colbert’s scathing Bobby Jindal farewell: GOP still party of stupid, Trump “offensive” and Carson “bizarre”.

Chris Christie can’t believe that the Paris attackers weren’t Syrian refugees.

Why Won’t People Just Call Ben Carson the Idiot He Clearly Is? Come on. The guy is as dumb as a bag of rocks. How does he get away with it? Because our society craves his narrative.

GOP Candidates Really Don’t Want To Talk About ‘Kill The Gays’ Conference.

This week in Other Politics:

Ignore The Freakout: Here’s What Obama Really Said About ‘America Winning’.

Observers Push Back Against Anti-Refugee Ugliness: “No Exaggeration to Call This Un-American.”

The National Association of Evangelicals Calls for Continued Resettlement of Refugees.

Inslee says Washington state will continue to welcome refugees. That’s my governor!

Now the Truth Emerges: How the US Fuelled the Rise of ISIS in Syria and Iraq.

Things I wrote:

When bad things happen look for the heroes.

The red cup is already silly old news, but it’s more than a joke.

Meta-labels and Sub-genres – loving sf/f in all its forms.

Videos!

Trans women tell GLAAD about their experiences in honor of Trans Day of Remembrance:

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Use the iPad Pro like a Wacom Cintiq:

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Elton John – Looking Up:

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Panic! At The Disco: Victorious [OFFICIAL VIDEO]:

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Meta-labels and Sub-genres – loving sf/f in all its forms

https://thehopefulheroine.wordpress.com/2014/01/02/dont-judge-a-book-by-its-genre-an-intro/ (Click to embiggen)
https://thehopefulheroine.wordpress.com/2014/01/02/dont-judge-a-book-by-its-genre-an-intro/ (Click to embiggen)
I had two different ideas for this week’s “Why I love sf/f” post. Unfortunately, the one I had gotten furthest along in was turning into a mash-up of last week’s and the one before. The other one showed a bit more promise, and then I saw this post on the Over The Effing Rainbow blog: [Sci-Fi Month] Guest post: Aliette de Bodard – Science-fiction, fantasy, and all the things in between.

Go read it, because she says what I wanted to say, only better!

I went through a long phase where I preferred science fiction over fantasy with a bit of self-delusion along the lines that somehow fantasy was “just making any old thing up” while science fiction required an understanding of science! Likewise, I often expounded the notion that hard sci fi was superior to all others because you were constructing your what-if scenarios inside even more demanding parameters. Somehow I was able to express those beliefs at the same time that I would read and re-read any Andre Norton book I could get my hands on because I always loved them. I’m not sure why it took so long for me to recognize the cognitive dissonance between the kinds of stories that moved me most, and the sorts of stories which didn’t but which I claimed were superior.

Some of it is pure stubbornness: you express an opinion at one point, and then you feel obligated to keep justifying your original statement. But when I finally started to recognize this particular contradiction, that didn’t seem a sufficient explanation. Until I had an epiphany.

The epiphany came from an unusual source. I was watching a recording of a question-and-answer session that sex advice columnist and gay rights activist Dan Savage was having after giving a talk at a university. A young woman had a question about why guys her age would be friendly and sometimes flirty with her and other woman she knew who weren’t “model thin,” but always distancing themselves before things got beyond friendship. Yet she found older men pursuing her. She feared that the older men were desperate because of some other flaw she hadn’t uncovered, and that younger guys were merely shallow.

Dan pointed out a couple of things. One was that every week since he’d become an advice columnist he received at least a couple of letters from straight guys who confessed that they were really attracted to bigger women, but terrified to admit it because they thought it meant something was wrong with them. In an aside, he said that he got similar messages from some gay guys about their attraction to big guys. He said the thing nearly all the letters had in common was that the letter writer was either in their teens or their twenties. At that age, Dan said, guys are still very focused on winning the approval of other guys. So they are much more concerned with appearing to be interested in the things they think others expect them to be interested in.

His conclusion was that a lot of the guys she thought were sending mixed signals were doing just that. They were genuinely attracted to her, but when they recognized what was happening, they bailed because they thought they weren’t supposed to be attracted to that kind of body. So his advice was to go ahead and take men who did express interest at their word, and if they didn’t otherwise set of alarm bells, there was nothing wrong with dating them. But also, she would find when she got a bit older, that there were plenty of guys who always had found her attractive, they just had to grow up enough to stop worrying about the approval of their friends.

I realized that I had started espousing those opinions about sci fi vs fantasty, and hard sci fi vs so-called soft science sci fi, and very cerebral sci fi vs action/adventure sci fi when I was in my teens, and I hardened those opinions in my early twenties. At the time it seemed that the fans I most admired all held that opinion. And the way that libraries often classified various books seemed to reinforce that. All of the “soft” sci fi and fantasy was filed in the young adult section or the children’s section of libraries that divided things up that way. Only the hard sci fi and certain kinds of action/adventure sci fi was over in the adult sections. Clearly fantasy and so forth was for less mature, and therefore less sophisticated, readers.

Bull.

“If you’re going to break a rule, break it good and hard. My personal motto!”
—Aliette de Bodard

Especially since science fiction is supposed to be not just exploring limits, but pushing beyond frontiers into the unknown, we shouldn’t look down on things that vary from the familiar. That’s the whole point, right? It’s timid to worry about whether a story is supposed to go this way, or whether we’re supposed to like a particular kind of story, et cetera.

Isn’t science fiction and fantasy supposed to be about boldly going where no one has gone before?

The red cup is already silly old news, but it’s more than a joke

A bag of Starbucks Christmas blend and the cup from my most recent latte, both purchased Saturday.
A bag of Starbucks Christmas blend and the cup of from my most recent latte, both purchased Saturday.
The accusations about the Starbucks red cup that were recently put forward as further evidence of the so-called War on Christmas are funny and ridiculous. The entire notion of a war on Christmas is ludicrous to the extreme. Just as ludicrous as the claim that Christians are an oppressed minority in a country in which 70% of the population identifies as Christian, with about 90% of elected federal officials (not to mention every local and state level) also Christian.

But I saw an article last week which was trying to make the argument that because the whole thing was caused by a self-proclaimed YouTube Evangelist who is actually a con-man, that it was wrong for any of us to make fun of it or otherwise call it out.

Bull.

A close-up of the supposedly anti-Christmas mug. Look at the band. Snow! And how long had red and green been Christmas colors, anyway?
A close-up of the supposedly anti-Christmas mug. Look at the band. Snow! And how long have red and green been Christmas colors, anyway?
Make no mistake: Joshua Feuerstein, the guy who made the YouTube rant (which got more than 12 million views on YouTube; I haven’t bothered to try to track down how many shares the version he shared to Facebook got) makes money from his rants, such as his laughable attempt to take down evolution (that got 2 million views) and so forth. He’s the same idiot that illegally recorded the phone call where he tried to get a bakery to make a cake and write a hateful anti-gay message on it (you may recall the baker offered to make him a bible cake, one she makes many times, but leave it blank and sell him the tool to write his own message on it; even offered to give him cake decorating lessons). He’s in the business of ginning up outrage and getting people to donate money to him so he can continue to fight the good fight.

The trim on the back of the bag, why, that's foil Christmas wrapping paper much like the kind favored by one of my Great-grandmothers!
The trim on the back of the bag, why, that’s foil Christmas wrapping paper much like the kind favored by one of my Great-grandmothers!
But here’s the thing: con-men like Feuerstein don’t just prey on the idiots who gave him $20,000 to purchase a special web spycam so he could expose the anti-Christian plots of… well, I don’t think he ever said. He also apparently never bought any such camera. They also cause real harm.

At least half of the animus and most of the money raised to pass Proposition 8 in California several years ago repealing marriage equality was raised by con-men like him. Most of the money raised to mount their legal defense of Prop 8 was raised by con-men like him. Most of the money and most of the votes needed to repeal Houston’s anti-discrimination law recently was fired up by con-men like him.

The bag even has the word "Christmas" on it. The actual word. It clearly can't be a salvo in the War on Christmas because it hasn't substituted the word "Holiday" for Christmas, right?
The bag even has the word “Christmas” on it. The actual word. It clearly can’t be a salvo in the War on Christmas because it hasn’t substituted the word “Holiday” for Christmas, right?
The entire campaign in Washington state several years back to try to prevent domestic partnerships was orchestrated by two such con-men. One of them raised hundreds of thousands of dollars for the campaign mostly from local donors, and then his financial filings revealed that throughout the campaign he paid directly to himself between $5,000-$20,000 every week in consulting fees for “website maintenance.” That’s in addition to paying himself a salary out of the money as the head of the campaign. The other guy, who is peddling his lies in Washington state only because Oregon’s department of revenue determined many years ago that his so-called ministry not only didn’t meet the legal definition of a church, but didn’t meet the definition of a non-profit charity, and had placed tax-liens on him for collection of back taxes. He raised tons of money, too, with all of his emails about the evil gay agenda. The problem was that the links included in those emails for donations were to his new church (we have more liberal laws for registering such things than Oregon does, and Oregon isn’t actually restrictive on that). But the church isn’t allowed to advocate for or against ballot measures.

He’s also the guy who fought all the way to the Supreme Court to try to keep the public records of who signed the Referendum petitions private, claiming that he received death threats. That prompted even ultra-conservative Justice Scalia to side with the pro-liberty forces in the case and say “participating in democracy requires a bit of civic courage.”

Both of them returned and squandered a bunch of money trying to repeal marriage equality in the state in 2012 when the legislature passed that.

The con-men themselves, whether they are internet douche bags like Feuerstein, or international hate-mongers like “Porno Pete” LaBarbera or Scott Lively or rabid anti-gay creep Brian Brown, may be in it more for the notoriety and the money, but they cause real harm. Lively, for instance, his being sued in U.S. court for crimes against humanity because of his activities resulting in the passage of “kill the gays” bills in Uganda and similar places. All of them contribute to the atmosphere of fear and hate that causes so-call Christian parents to kick their children out on the street for being (or being suspected of being) gay. They contribute to the bullying that drives 1500 children to commit suicide out of fear of being rejected by their rightwing families for being queer, gender-nonconforming, or trans. And yes, they even contribute to the mania that causes governors to try to ban refugees who are actually the victims of the terrorists that governors claim that they can only keep out by banning refugees.

They aren’t merely con-men or grifters. They’re hate-mongers and life-destroyers, too.

See! Starbucks isn't the company that has substituted the generic "Holiday" for Christmas! Though the photo of holly berries is still rather festive...
See! Starbucks isn’t the company that has substituted the generic “Holiday” for Christmas! Though the photo of holly berries is still rather festive…
I must confess that I have several reasons this particular issue annoys me. I’ve written before about love of holiday coffee blends and that it was a silly tradition shared with my late partner, Ray. So I have a bit of an obsession with Christmas-themed coffee, whether it be Starbucks’ Christmas blend, Peet’s Holiday Blend, Tulley’s Holiday Joy Blend, Caffe Ladro’s Fireside Blend, et cetera.

They are all meant to celebrate Christmas, not make war on it! Rich, warm, soothing coffee is about love, not war!

I love my Christmas blends, and every year I collect a bunch. I really do go the entire month making myself Christmas Blend and Holiday Blend and Holiday Joy Blend, and so forth. It’s part of my Christmas celebration. And yes, I’m a queer guy who is a taoist married to a pagan, but every year we put up a big Christmas tree in our living room. We cover our house in Christmas lights. We send Christmas cards. We say “Merry Christmas!” to people. We are not waging a war on Christmas or Christianity.

No, the only people doing that, are the folks like Feuerstein. Con-men who are trying to turn a buck by spewing hate and stirring up fake outrage in the name of Jesus. He warned us that such evil people would come forward and claim to be acting in his name. And he told us on the day of judgment what he would tell them:

“I know you not from where you are; depart from me, all you workers of iniquity.”
—Luke 13:27

I wish we didn’t have to wait…

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Fumble fingers again!

I wasn’t finished and hit the publish button by mistake!

Come back soon!

Edit: Now the post is ready here

When bad things happen look for the heroes

This is Adel Termos pictured with one of his children.  Mr. Termos sacrificed himself by tackling a suicide bomber in Beirut on Thursday.
This is Adel Termos pictured with one of his children. Mr. Termos sacrificed himself by tackling a suicide bomber in Beirut on Thursday.
Really bad things are happening around the world. And not just the ones that your national media is obsessing over.

One Day Before Paris, There Was a Massive Terrorist Attack the Media Ignored “It’s not just Paris we should pray for, it is the world.”

There Is Only One Way to Defeat ISIS “We must hold accountable our Middle Eastern “allies”—the states and bankers and political elites—who persist in funding mass murder.”

Paris Was Not The Only City to Be Hit With A Terrorist Attack This Week.

This Is the Hero Who Sacrificed His Own Life to Save Hundreds From ISIS Terrorists. “…the attacks in Paris and Beirut are only the latest in a wave of terrorism that has swept the globe in recent months. Only weeks ago, a Russian airliner was downed near Egypt’s Sharm el-Sheikh resort in what was likely a bomb attack. In July, Egyptian soldiers killed nearly 100 militants in the Sinai during skirmishes there. Meanwhile in the Turkish capital of Ankara, nearly 100 were killed in explosions.”

Friday Links (91-year-old badass edition)

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Thank goodness it’s Friday. November is moving along!

NaNoWriMo is taking up a lot of my time, so I’m not doing as much online news reading as usual. Anyway, here is a collection of some of the things that I ran across over the course of the week which struck me as worthy of being shared. Sorted into categories with headings so you can skip more easily:

Link of the Week

Required Viewing: Maddow On “Kill the Gays” Pastor and the GOP Candidates Who Love Him.

This Week in Diversity

ICEMAN AND WHY IT’S IMPORTANT TO STAND WITH OUR FICTIONAL FRIENDS.

Binders Full of Men.

Aziz Ansari on Acting, Race and Hollywood.

Black Kids Will Save America.

News for queers and our allies:

Gay East Carolina Univ. diver left Mormon faith and became Baptist after coming out.

Double the Sex or Double the Pitfalls? How Does a Bi Marriage Really Work?

The Devious New Conservative Plan To Turn LGBT People Against Each Other.

Kansas Teacher In Hot Water For Showing Bullying Video Has Been Reinstated.

Happy News!

VIDEO: President Jimmy Carter Says He Feels Fine, Keeps Busy Despite Cancer.

Science!

When the Sun Went Medieval on Our Planet.

VIDEO: BMW Drivers Really Are Jerks, Studies Find.

Jimmy Carter’s Cancer Battle Spotlights 2 New Therapies.

Science Fiction, Fantasy and Speculation!

World Fantasy award drops HP Lovecraft as prize image.

Here’s What “Uncanny X-Men’s” Iceman Coming Out Scene Got Right.

Terminally ill fan who saw Star Wars: The Force Awakens early has died.

H.P. Lovecraft was always a terrible choice for the World Fantasy Awards. “Lovecraft wrote stories where books could usher in the end of the world. H.P. Lovecraft wrote stories where imagination would lead you to death and insanity. H.P. Lovecraft wrote stories where curiosity didn’t only kill the cat, but made the cat pray for death to a cold and uncaring universe. H.P. Lovecraft wrote stories where the only thing you’d find through the looking glass, at the back of the wardrobe, or out beyond the stars was madness, depravity, and despair.”

This Week in History

How did the first world war actually end?

Culture war news:

Mormon Church Nostalgic for Days When Homophobia Just Hurt Homos. “I’ve seen lots of painful things, but nothing so widespread, in terms of the devastation and heartbreak. I personally talked to dozens of people who are walking away. And these aren’t people with LGBT ties. These are ardent, faithful, in-the-box believing Mormons who can’t abide this,”

The Most Effective Argument Against Gay Rights: The conservative backlash to marriage and transgender equality is officially under way.

Starbucks’s red cup controversy, explained.

Cartoon: The right to an unfair trial.

Utah governor says judge who ordered child removed from same-sex couple should ‘follow the law’.

On Campus Racism And The Fairy Tale Of The P.C. Police.

50 Cent, Vivica A. Fox And The Absurdity Of Hip-Hop Homophobia.

This Week in the Clown Car

The real reason Donald Trump appeals to working-class whites: Racial animus only tells part of the story. Red-state voters really believe Trump is so rich he can’t be bought.

Ted Cruz will never “Let It Go”: The right-wing’s insane new fear of “Frozen”.

Poll: The more that GOP voters hear about Bush, the less they like him.

The Fox Business GOP Debate Was Boring — and Rigged.

Why Is the Media Ignoring Ted Cruz’s Embrace of ‘Kill the Gays’ Pastor?

AP: Carson Profits From Ties With Felon Convicted Of Health Care Fraud.

This week in Other Politics:

Rachel Maddow Dazzles And Puts The Republican Debates To Shame At SC Democratic Forum.

The Most Basic Rule Of Journalism. “Hillary Clinton and Ben Carson and Carly Fiorina and the rest will argue that Who/What/When/Where/Why/How are all “gotcha” questions, but holding them (or anyone) accountable for their assertions — by demanding proof — isn’t a “gotcha” game.”

How Paul Ryan is already changing Congress.

It’s time to withdraw from the Middle East: Military intervention is only making terrorism worse. It’s time for a radical pivot.

Obama Administration Announces Support For Amending Civil Rights Act To Protect LGBT People.

Jimmy Carter gets optimistic update on cancer treatment.

This Week in Police Problems

Pseudoscience in the Witness Box: The FBI faked an entire field of forensic science.

Things I wrote:

Weekend Update – 11/7/2015: Children Being Failed.

Trying too hard to proclaim oppression….

Here comes the gloom again.

The 11th hour of the 11th day of the 11th month….

Cosmic Cringing – lovable sf/f made by less-than-lovable people.

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Cosmic Cringing – lovable sf/f made by less-than-lovable people

xlarge_edgetopI’m hardly the first person to write about the challenges of being a fan of problematic material. And I have written a lot about at what point a particular writer’s or artist’s beliefs and actions in real life make it difficult to enjoy their creations. Because of events at the World Fantasy Awards ceremony earlier this week, a lot of people are talking about this topic right now. Plenty of people are weighing in on the specifics there–I’m not going to talk about that.

Instead, I want to talk about how this topic came up in relationship to one of my own posts earlier this year about some of the science fiction and fantasy I love.

I had specifically written about Isaac Asimov, a Grandmaster of Science Fiction who wrote a lot of both sci fi and science fact. One of my readers correctly pointed out that while Asimov’s writing was award-worthy, his personal behavior quite often wasn’t. A self-described “dirty old man,” Asimov was known for getting handsy with women and making sexual suggestions or “jokes” in public settings. This has been excused by some by saying that he was a product of his time. Yet both Mister Rogers and Charles Schulz were born in the same decade and were therefore products of the same time, and they knew not to grope strangers without permission!

The only thing that “a product of his time” really means here is that women who complained about that kind unwanted attention got even less support and sympathy from society at that time than they do now.

So, he was a problematic person. I don’t find his writing to be particularly misogynist nor exploitive. Yes, it was mostly as sexist as any other fiction written in the 1930s-1980s. One of the most common critiques leveled against his writing in that regard is that he tended to avoid any romance in his stories altogether; which means at least wasn’t making the women prizes for the men all the time. On the other hand, he did occasionally write stories with women as protagonists, which is more than you can say about many of his male contemporaries in the genre.

Just because I’m not offended by his writing doesn’t mean that others can’t be, nor does it mean that anyone is under an obligation to like his writing.

His groping and inappropriate comments were not the only issues the previous commenter mentioned. Isaac Asimov got married when he was 20 to a woman of whom his parents approved. Isaac cheated on his wife, Gertrude, frequently, eventually causing them to separate. At which point Asimov immediately began living with one of the women he’d been having an affair with. Three years later Gertrude and Isaac finally divorced, and two weeks later Isaac married Janet O. Jeppson, the women with whom he’d been living since separating from Gertrude.

There are people who say that Isaac continued to cheat on Janet just as he had with Gertrude. There is a very big problem with this claim: no one but Janet and Isaac knows whether his flings and dalliances after the marriage to Janet were cheating. They may have had an open relationship (which most non-monogamous couples don’t admit to, because society is even less accepting of polyamory and monogamishness than they are of philanderers).

We know that Gertrude did not agree to an open relationship, because she made that very clear on more than one occasion. Asimov was definitely in the wrong during his first marriage. So he was definitely a cheater as well as a sexual harasser during that time. But if Janet agreed to an open relationship, then it wasn’t cheating. Period.

That doesn’t negate his other failings, but we can’t presume to know what agreement Isaac and his second wife had or didn’t have, absent word directly from her.

Human relationships are messy. Society makes the mess worse, because people are expected to figure out their sexual needs and relationships with inadequate information while weighed down by gigantic amounts of societal baggage, a great deal of which is false. Thanks to myths such as the Relationship Escalator, the One True Soulmate Fairytale, and the Marriage=Adulthood Fallacy, people get married when they aren’t ready to other unprepared people who are not compatible (in many ways).

In my experience that often goes double for the kind of person who has the temperament to be a writer of any kind, and triple for those who are drawn to sf/f. Where a social awkwardness and arrested development is all too common.

People are imperfect. All people are imperfect. That means each and every one of us it imperfect. Sometimes we like things that contradict some of our own ideals. Sometimes we like people who don’t live up to all of our ideals.

Everyone is aware that their friends and loved ones are imperfect. The part we tend to overlook is: everyone who likes us does so in spite of our flaws. None of us live up to all of our own ideals all of the time, let alone live up to the ideals of our loved ones. In a relationship, we cut each other slack because we feel that other things outweigh the imperfections.

Which is where I come back to the original question. When you discover that the person who created something you love wasn’t very lovable, how much does it color your evaluation of the art or story? That’s going to vary from person to person. For me, the incredible sense of wonder I got the first time I read Asimov’s “The Last Question” is simply too big to dismiss. The sheer volume of science and history of science and a love for science that he packs into each essay in collections such as Only a Trillion, The Tragedy of the Moon, Of Time and Space and Other Things, or Quasar, Quasar Burning Bright will always make me glad we live in such an amazing universe. Whether I’m reminded of the hilarity and humanity of his mysteries, such as Murder at the ABA, or the understandability of his in-depth science books such as The Collapsing Universe and The Genetic Code, I keep thinking that if any other person had written one-tenth of what he did, they would be considered one of the greatest.

I cringe when I think of how he behaved toward women. I wish that the same brilliance which illuminated his writing had also informed his treatment of some of the people he met.

But I remain a fan of his work. And I understand if other people decide to give it a pass.

The 11th hour of the 11th day of the 11th month…

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From the President Obama’s official proclamation for Veteran’s Day 2015:

The United States military is the strongest, most capable fighting force the world has ever known. The brave men and women of our Army, Navy, Air Force, Marine Corps, and Coast Guard demonstrate a resolute spirit and unmatched selflessness, and their service reminds us there are few things more American than giving of ourselves to make a difference in the lives of others. On Veterans Day, we reflect on the immeasurable burdens borne by so few in the name of so many, and we rededicate ourselves to supporting those who have worn America’s uniform and the families who stand alongside them.

Our true strength as a Nation is measured by how we take care of our veterans when they return home, and my Administration is committed to ensuring our heroes and their loved ones have every chance to share in the promise they risked their lives to defend. We have made it easier for veterans to convert their military skills to the civilian workforce, enabled more veterans and their family members to attain Federal education benefits, and expanded access to timely, quality health care for all veterans. Just as every veteran deserves the support and benefits they have earned, those who have given everything to defend our homeland deserve a place of their own to call home…

Our veterans left everything they knew and loved and served with exemplary dedication and courage so we could all know a safer America and a more just world. They have been tested in ways the rest of us may never fully understand, and it is our duty to fulfill our sacred obligation to our veterans and their families. On Veterans Day, and every day, let us show them the extraordinary gratitude they so rightly deserve, and let us recommit to pledging our full support for them in all they do.

Our allies still refer to this holiday by its original name: Armistice Day: Nation remembers war dead. We barely study World War I in public school history classes, and when we do, it seldom includes the whole story: How did the first world war actually end?

Regardless, if you want to show support for those who served, may I humbly suggest donating to National Coalition for Homeless Veterans. There are, of course, many other fine charities that serve veterans and their families. You can find more of them here: Charity Navigator: Support Our Troops